What's Your Vibe

Happy New Year to you all and I have to say I am happy to enter a new year after the craziness that was 2020! I think with all this restriction and being told to follow rules and stay at home it’s easy to lose your mojo. Although in the midst of all this chaos we have been given the gift of time. Time, I have really used to reflect on my daily routines BC - Before Covid. I was always running around a million miles an hour saying yes to everything and making sure that everyone else was ok regardless of what I felt like and how it would affect me or exhaust me. I know for sure that I will not be returning to this way of life post covid. It’s just, not a healthy way of life filling your day with To-Do lists and feeling good when you can tick them off your list….is that really enjoying life, or is that just existing? I want it all and I thought that meant I have to do it all. Now I spend my time and energy on what makes me happy. It’s a more authentic me. I feel more in tune with my body and mind. I’ve been ignoring this and basically living on auto-pilot - which again is not living its existing. A life constantly focused on the end goal, the achievement is really sad. After all, the end goal of life is death! Ok, ok, I’m not being morbid at all here but it is a reality check that if you live like this, in this state of mind, then you are not living in the now, you are not living at all, and certainly not living your true vibe.

So what's your true vibe? Is it what tik tok says is cool now, is it what Instagram says is aesthetically pleasing? Really it's about what makes you tick, what gives you that little fizz of excitement, what makes you laugh. The French have a beautiful saying ‘Joie de vivre’ which translates to ‘Joy of Living’ and for me, this really encapsulates the whole concept of having your own vibe.

I grew up in the eighties and I was totally obsessed with my icon Madonna. The music, the fashion, and ultimately her vibe completely intoxicated me. I wanted to be her, look like her, and have her style. When I used the word obsessed this was no joke I literally had posters floor to ceiling in my bedroom, newspaper cuttings, and I would listen to her music over and over again. It's crazy how times have changed now everything is instantaneously accessed online but then the internet hadn't even been invented. I suppose that was my trend that instilled the start of my own vibe journey.

I've always been quietly confident and trusted in my own judgement of what looks and feels good. My vibe is:-

Creative

Dance

Kindness

Positive

Passion

Strong

Witty

Vintage

Fearless

Authentic

Explore your own vibe and write down 10 things that you think bring your unique style together. Exploring what energies are attracted to you and what connects you to others is such an amazing feeling. Living your life through your own vibe is to be true to yourself and to enjoy life authentically. I love that exchange of opinions and ideas when you are surrounded by your tribe. For me, I feel energised and I think if I spend too much time with a person or activity that isn't my thing it just drains my energy. So if I'm at a party and suddenly the music changes then I’m gonna stop dancing and leave or if I talk to someone and they are just cold then adios amigo I’m gone. Just keep it simple, focus your energy and time on what makes you happy.

Your vibe attracts your tribe, never settle for anything less.

I hope you all have had a fabulous start to 2021 and you feel inspired to explore your vibe. As always sent with lots of RubyLoves fabulousness & Love.

Lots of Love

Lynette

RubyLoves xxx

I DO

Being a wedding make-up artist and beauty blogger, I thought this week’s blog title was perfect. I think I’m one of those people who once I have a focus in my mind then there really is no stopping me. I will do whatever it takes to create that vision and make it a reality. However, it doesn't happen by itself and the one thing I've learned is to plan how I am going to reach my goals.

About Time

I give myself a time frame of when I want to achieve my goal and then I work backward's and break it down into segments. At this stage, dissecting your goals is a time-consuming task but don't rush it and be realistic about what you can and can't do. If you need to learn a new skill then put your energy into that. One thing that I have learned the hard way is that more often than not tasks take much longer than I would allocate and it would throw off my whole schedule. Today, I am much more realistic about the timings. I think anything creative is more prone to taking longer but it is always worth that extra attention.

Self Education

I am guilty of trying to do everything myself and feeling like it is always my responsibility to do it all. It all needs the RubyLoves effect! But, I am learning to delegate my tasks to make life easier. I have always been a person that typically doesnt ask for help. I will struggle along, research things and try and find as much information as i can. Self-education has become such a big part of my life and I actually think I will be a life-long learner. I crave knowledge, my mind is constantly hungry to learn the mechanics of a subject.

Plan

When you run a business, unless you have a team around you to help you, then you will be the person to say ‘I Do’ to every task. Like anything it can be overwhelming the more things you say ‘I Do’ to. I am a solution-based thinker so I usually come up with ways to make my life easier. One thing I cannot live without is my planner. I would never remember a thing without it. Our lives are so busy with being a mum, running a home and being all the facets of a person that we are to everyone around us.

Get Organised

How I make it easy for myself is to plan my whole month, then my week ahead, then I do a daily planner too. It sounds like a huge effort but by putting this time in now it completely free’s my mind to actually create the best I can, organically, without getting distracted and thinking of all the 100’s of things I need to do. It gives me that clear mind to focus all my energy on one task at a time. The monthly tasks eventually filter into my week ahead plan and that eventually flows into my daily plan. The system constantly evolves as I add fresh tasks to complete each month but I have a clear way of monitoring what I am doing. I love this method as it also shows me the tasks that i keep putting off. You know the ones that you dont seem to find the time to do, so you put them back a week. These are usually tasks that I struggle with, dont know how to do or simply dont like to do. This system really helps to sift out what you are and are not achieving.

Don’t Worry

Dont beat yourself up about this! We are all human and allowed to have things we dont want to do. A way of overcoming this is to find out why you havent done each task. If its simply because you dont like it then I’m afraid my advice is to bite the bullet and do that task first, get it out the way and then move on to the rest. You will be much more productive and can forget about that task too. If its because you dont know how to do it then get online and learn that skill, empower yourself and get ahead!

I hope you have enjoyed this weeks blog and it helps you to create your own fabulousness. Dont forget to subscribe and please let me know if you would like me to share a specific topic in my blog.

Lots of Love

Lynette

RubyLoves xxx

Change Your Life

We are nearly at the end of the strangest year of our lifetime - 2020. What has happened to you? The life you had prior to the pandemic? I think it’s safe to say we have all been trying to make the best of all the uncertainty and make that our ‘new normal’. Coping with being at home more, not seeing our loved ones when and how we want to and the fear of this invisible threat.

I remember in the beginning, I would watch the news and check my phone for the latest developments. Then I thought that is all I am giving my mind to deal with - Catastrophe, Chaos, and Anxiety. I decided that has got to stop, I don’t need to hear about it all day long.

For me this year has brought about many achievements that I have wanted to do but never had the time. I started writing this blog, had my work published in a fabulous online Magazine based in LA & I re-vamped my website. I have built my followers on my Instagram account and I have a few more exciting projects that I will be launching very soon.

HOW DID I DO IT ALL and where did I start?

I needed to replace the negative input with positivity and I started listening to motivational podcasts about mindset, business, and achieving the life you want. I started taking notes and realised I loved what I was learning and my ideas for my own goals started to flow. I’d already written blogs for other brands and I wanted to focus on my own voice and share my knowledge on makeup, skincare, lifestyle & wellness.

I wrote my goals down but this time with the focus of achieving them not just writing them down and dreaming about them. I like to work in 3-month chunks it is much easier to see if what you are doing is achieving results and then you can tweak it and move forward. I have done lots of research & read lots of books and given myself the capabilities to move these goals off the paper and into motion. I believe when you are in-tune to what you really want you are like a magnet for anything that can help you along the way. Who you surround yourself with, the internal dialogue and your overall attitude.

None of this comes easy, you have to switch your brain to the right frequency of abundance and gratitude. It does take time, energy & consistency but it is so worth it. I have a few steps to get you started:-

1. Think of the area you want to change or improve.

2. Why does it need to change or improve?

3. Break the goal down into segments and then work on each piece and set yourself a time frame.

4. Get help if you need to - don't be afraid to ask for help.

5. Never compare yourself to others

Now, imagine how you would feel in 1 year if you didn't make this change? Imagine how you would feel if you didn't do this in 5 years time?

Then, imagine yourself in 1 year if you did achieve your goal. What would you feel like, look like and how would this goal enrich your life? Focus on these answers, this is the outcome you want for yourself. You deserve it and you will find a way to make this happen.

You really are capable of achieving anything you set your mind to.

Set YOUR Goal.

Change YOUR Life.

I hope you make all your dreams come true and enjoyed reading this weeks blog. As always send with lots of love and RubyLoves fabulousness!!

Lots of Love

Lynette

RubyLoves xxx